WW won't separate

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Thanks PEW.

I just don't interpret anything. It is hard to do but it helps avoid pain. IT all goes in cycles. My wife will open up to me occasionally and soften but I think its more of a place of just returning to the place of 25+ years that is familiar and safe to her. I don't think at all she's returning to the MR.

I feel much better now that she's off my phone plan and the temptation to check her activity is completely removed.

I'm working on more boundaries like that and essentially more 180's. We've had a few confrontations where I've expressed that I want no part of enabling her A. I need to get back to the basics though and above all just focus on me and not at all be concerned with whatever my W is doing.