180man Thread 4

[180Man]

180,
I understand the points that 25 and Georgiabelle are conveying to you. I do have a different take on your sitch.

First, you don't have children and I'd venture to guess that neither does the JAG. IMO, not having children makes it easier to date. It is apparent that having her attention has boosted your confidence. Also, it shows you that a D is not the end all, be all.

Here is the main thing in regards to JAG. You have to be honest with yourself and with JAG. You have to be cognizant of your thoughts and feelings and you need to be forthcoming with her. I agree with 25 that you are not completely healed, however at what stage will you be ready? Sometimes trial and error.

Personally, I think we could argue that it is unfair to first person that we date coming out of this mess no matter the time. For most of us, this is possibly the most difficult thing we have experienced. It will undoubtedly affect us in some form or fashion.

Slow and smooth with eyes wide open.

Thanks LITB. Yes, I understand what they are saying. I think I just rambled quite a bit trying to express that I also have the same fears, but in the end I come to the same conclusion as you.

I want nothing more than to be honest and straightforward with JAG. Will I dive deep into my past over bowling? No, not unless she asks. But if it goes any further, like a dinner date, she has the right to know what's going on with me so she can make her own decision about what to do (or not do, as the case may be). I'm not a complete idiot, I won't be telling her every last detail right away, but she needs to know the basics. I will be happy to answer any questions she has, but I am also aware that the last thing I want to do is entangle her in past emotions. That's not fair to her.

Thanks everyone, I needed to think, read, and hear what you guys are saying. I like it...smooth, slow, eyes wide open.