I love your thoughts and I think you offer great insight. I got the impression that posters (and I can only speak for myself) want TO to think about a lot of different scenarios. Don't stay married out of fear or if you truly cannot live with the way things are. And you don't want or are unwilling/incapable of seeing if things change. I'm certainly not implying weakness-I just think everyone has a threshold. For the record, I would say that I absolutely get giddy when I hear about 30, 40, 50 year anniversaries. I don't know. I just get the impression from TO that she doesn't want her marriage to end. However, it sounds like she can't do *this* again. And I can sympathize with that even though my situation wasn't the same.
I don't correlate letting someone go as to getting a D or even saying the m is over. I just see that as stepping back and letting things transpire. Maybe that's just my interpretation and we are all different.
Sending positive vibes to you, TO.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
