Hoos,, Anyhow, I'd rather be the higher earner than the lower, trust me there. Not to mention I earned a law degree & had school debt and a career. But we moved 9 times for h's career, versus 0 moves for my career.
H's resume is pristine; mine's less than the resume of a new law school grad, b/c they'd at least be young and starting out...but if I spiral anymore in this vein, I'll wallow.
Anyhow, You can put a no cohabitation clause in your Decree if it comes to it and YOU can remarry someone who earns more than the OM does, obviously. So While your w would lose some alimony by remarrying, chances are you'd gain income a) if she remarries and b) if you marry someone working outside the home. Don't discount that^^.
Also Are your kids special needs? If so, who will watch your sons when it's her time to hang out? How inconvenient for her. How Unfun....
My complaint about the system is that I won a fair amount of TEMPORARY support in the court (and am struggling with some health issues I never had before) and h fought even that...and it has cost us both a lot already. But after the court again gave me "round 2", h Claims he quit a high 6 figure job to avoid paying me...unbelievable.
Talk about cutting his nose off. AND No I do not believe he retired. There are ways to hide income when you want to buy into a practice.
Which makes him a horrible person and even if he did retire, you mean to say you'd quit the GREATEST JOB EVER, to avoid temporarily paying me 1/4 of it?
Who does that? I cannot decide which is worse, lying about income or actually refusing it to punish me...
The "System" is that even though there's a court order in place, so what?
As long as he can hide wages all i can do is HOPE to get my half of the retirement BUT I am not old enough to use it for 2 more years- I only hope he has not grabbed it and squandered it on OW or God knows where...
h is not a good investor, btw. I invested our savings years ago and thanks to the choices I made (which bored h, but at least he gave me free rein on those monies, as opposed to the financial secrets he kept)
"Dear H, The wealth we do have is not thanks to your GOLD RUSH Alaskan income...
You're welcome, 25"
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
