Just wondering what I should be doing. Should I stop pursuing him at this point. I cancelled our C appointment. I don't see a point in going when he's just going to say he's done again and when he isn't doing anything the C is asking him to do. So if he asks about going I'll make an appointment. If he doesn't bring it up I'll leave it be.
I just feel lost on my best course of action. I've been making his lunch making sure he has things he likes to snack on in the house doing the things I used to do to be thoughtful. I'm just not sure if that's the wrong thing to do and if I should just be polite but stop kissing him, showing affection and doing things for him when he cannot make any effort.
Hello TO324,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
I would hold off on continuing with C at this point. However there are things that could work and make a difference. I suggest you speak to a DB coach, as they are experts in looking at what has happened to bring you to this point in your relationship and what is the best way to interact with him, so that you are most likely to bring him closer and not push him any further away. Your coach's expertise will help you come up with a very specific plan (that may be counter intuitive to what you feel like saying and doing) on how to best turn things around.
I wish you all the best and would be happy to discuss the coaching with you.
Cristy
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