oh Irish, {{{{{{{D16}}}}}}} hugs hugs hugs to you and the girls, but esp. to D16.


I'm glad it didn't ruin the event for her. That's in large part due to you, but you already know that.

We all come here looking for answers, looking for a way to live through this, praying that our spouses as we knew them will return as quickly as possible. When that doesn't happen, as sadly is most often the case, we deal with things as best we can and move forward. Some of us are lucky in that our spouses leave us alone so we can heal. And then there are the gadflies ...

No, in and of itself it wasn't "bad" but yeah, it really was. It was a pathetic way to insert herself into your daughter's day, selfishly, without care for how her actions would affect D16. It was again all about her.
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I wish I could be there but it's not my choice.


Well, whose choice is it that eew is not there? This situation is entirely of eew's own making and she needs to own that, period, not continue to pretend she would be mother of the year if only she was allowed to be. Really she's like the bad fairy in the sleeping beauty story, lurking around, spying.

I'm sorry Irish, I have no patience for eew today. She wanted to go live her life, so go live it and leave the girls in peace. If she's really wanting to be a mother, then PUT THEM FIRST. I know. I know. She's not well. She's not capable. But no one should have to have a feeling of dread at every milestone or special occasion wondering if there will be something that will turn the attention onto eew.

You have every reason to be proud of this lovely young woman who has had to deal with way too much at such a young age. I am also proud of her and still think about what you wrote a while back that D16 wants to major in psychology to make sure other people don't have to go through this. God bless her. She's such a sweetheart.

I"m so very glad you didn't even realize that you weren't looking for eew ... much growth my friend! I hope the same was true for D16.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver