I'm sorry you find yourself here. Sometimes it's difficult to read the stories so I don't always chime in. Plus you've gotten lots of wisdom from 25, Sandi and Cadet. I'm not sure how much insight I have but.....
I live in the house my ex husband grew up in. Occasionally, it's strange. However with time I've realized it's a place I live. It's not who I am. I go on vacation with my ex in-laws. I hang out with my ex brother-in-law. I'm a little bit of an anomaly on these boards. My ex-husband has not spoken to his family barring to text in the last three years. His father is in declining health so I do hope that they are able to mend their relationship. I also have a cordial relationship with my x. He is texting me from his vacation as we speak. :-) My situation may not be the norm (whatever that) but ultimately I have tried to do what is right for me and my children. I wish my ex peace.
In regards to dating, I guess I'm perplexed why people are in such a hurry to date. I understand that people are lonely. And prior to my divorce the last time I was not in a relationship is when I was 20 years old. I can very honestly say that being by myself for two years before getting into another relationship is probably one of the wisest things I've ever done. And I'm extremely stubborn and strong-willed so that's saying a lot. I understand it's just bowling, however, people have a tendency to fast-forward particularly when they're looking for outside validation and to fill a void. I guess I just don't understand the rush. Ultimately, people will do what they think is best. However, it is extremely difficult to even casually date when one is in a lot of turmoil. And while it looks like you were doing many good things, you are clearly still in a great deal of pain. That it's completely understandable.
Be careful.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
