Just checking in. Got back from the beach on Saturday and we had a great time. Lots of honest discussion and was harder than anticipated when we got back home for my W. We talked through it for a couple of hours and it was all good open dialogue.
She's working through her guilt and struggling. Guilt for the two of us, guilt for the kids, guilt for the OM - both the infidelity and hurting the OM. This really is a massive process that takes time, pain and support.
What I'm most excited about is our discussions about the decision to do the work and give us a chance at our M. We've both recognized that the reconciliation we had 4 years ago was not a true reconciliation. It was done more out of fear and then we just got comfortable. We did not do the work necessary to change our M.
Our MC is on vacation this week, so we don't get to see her until next Thursday. I think this is actually a good thing because we'll have a week or so having to work on it ourselves. We can talk to her about our problems we may be experiencing and how to deal. I've got a work trip over the weekend too and I think that's good too. My W is very weak now emotionally, but I do travel for work on a regular basis. We've got to sort out how we both deal with that during this difficult time.
We are both optimistic about what we can do and I'm thankful for that, but I know bumps will be in the road, fears will have to be conquered, etc.
All the best.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
