Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 10

[skyhigh]

Sarah, I think what you are experiencing right now with anger, resentment, rage, and... is a normal reaction, you are hitting your anger phase post replay. May be speaking with a IC might help you.

It's normal to have lost respect and trust in them after what they did, if we didn't we will be a fool. They need to earn them back by their actions. Meanwhile they are dealing with ambivalence. So the MLCer and the LBS are watching each other trying to decide "should I stay or should I go". That period is nerve wrecking, because nothing is happening, but somehow we need that phase where things are finally very quiet to sort out our feelings. the best way of dealing with that phase, is just to do nothing which is not easy.

Use that phase to focus on you and not him, let him sort out what he wants so hold on on any R conversation. That huge chasm is caused by ambivalence, there is nothing you can do about it, their silence and long periods of withdrawal are just the signs that they are having long conversations within themselves.

It's way to early to think about forgiveness, forgiveness is something you feel inside you that not something you force yourself into it. It's the end of a long personal process.