No one can say how you decide this. Only you can will know when you have had enough. I find myself seeing my W differently now. She is still engulfed in her feelings for the OM. She tries to hide it now as to not upset anything at home but I am aware of what is going on. I try not to ficus on it and keep myself at a reasonable emotional distance. I do find it hard sometimes as I see her trying to open up more to me but I am unsure if it is just to keep me interested. I do find myself more and more possibly not wanting her back because I have been working on myself but see the same woman and all her same issues. I do know we will never work if she doesn't change and at the moment I don't see that happening.
I am sticking to my deadline for my own sanity and will see what happens then but I refuse to keep myself in this situation as it currently stands. All I can say to you is detachment has been the key to survival. Without it I was still focusing too much time and energy thinking about my W. I wish you the best and will keep following your stitch.
