Yeah, a bit of punishment I guess. Why should I do nice things for her, when she constantly shites on me from a great distance?
See the problem here? This isn't about doing 'nice' things for her. This is about the most convenient way to look after your kids. I get that paying her direct may well feel like enabling but it also reads like you're holding onto a little bit of power of your own, otherwise known as holding the rope.
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It's always the kids she uses as a weapon.
Be careful you don't end up doing the same. It's not fare on the kids.
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I can't afford a car - simple as.
If it's that important to you you will figure something out. Depending on her and her refusal to help just builds resentment. That's not good for anyone.
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I bought S some new shoes today.
That's nice. Good man.
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Of course, the shoes I bought weren't good enough for her, claiming that he needed a different size, colour etc. despite me getting his feet measured.
Not good enough for her? Emm, so? You bought the shoes for your S not her. You don't need nor want her approval.
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In fact, I have bought the kids their shoes for the past few times, outwith the maintenance cash I give her, as she can't get it together to do it herself.
Good. At least the kids have good shoes. That's the main thing.
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Whilst I see what you're saying about being the lighthouse, I don't think she wants to be 'rescued'. Her next boob repair is at the end of the month - that is her focus right now, nothing else.
Perhaps, perhaps not. You're still mind reading. Focus on you not her.
Mate these are all just my opinions as you know. I'm not an expert but what I can say is that once you finally let it all go you will start to feel a million times better.
Peace
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
