Hi Huddy , for me the lighthouse is living your life and living it well. I understand that W does not want to be rescued right now but a lighthouse is.always there , just in case.
I was impressed by your post , it seems you are moving forward.
're the kids and dropping them off , just my thoughts here but it seems like that's a problem you have to solve. Car can be very cheap mate , I don't know your circumstances but could you reduce W s cheque to allow for a cheap run around?
NDY makes the point that he relies on his ex for nothing and I'm the same. It's a nightmare sometimes juggling work and kids collections but it was my way forward for.detachment and dropping all expectations.
Obviously we all have different sitchs but at the end of the day we all need to deal with what's be handed to us. For me your W is as lost as she ever was and maybe that's the way it will be forever.
I read on here along time ago that the time to realise that someone was done was when they didn't care anymore and they really didn't react to you other how a stranger might. Your W can get a reaction out of you easily, I'm not saying you are at fault but in my case W might text how she's missing her home or family life and in the same text mention some small thing like her dad is unwell, I respond about any point to do with the kids , wish her dad well and that's it, I don't get into a conversation about her feelings because that's attachment to me.
Just my thoughts mate , your getting stronger , just let go resentment for your sake not hers.
