Begin to heal. Do whatever that means to you. Have you seen a therapist yet?
And the DB book, have you started reading one yet?
Not trying to be abrasive or too blunt, just trying to redirect you back to YOU...
this is really really HARD and painful, but sometimes it's not super complicated, you know?
I have started the DR book I'm at the point in the book where we need to be talking again it seems before I can really continue. I have seen a theropists once but I'm switching to a new one cause he didn't seem to be too good with marriage issues. I had deleted Facebook for the first two weeks but I reactivated it a few days ago.
You're right this is the hardest thing I've ever been through and that includes cancer and all the surgeries that I had to do. My first marriage was a bit easier to move on from cause I pretty much saw the writing on the wall with her Infidelity, and after the second time she did that I pretty much wanted her to leave. But this time the out of the blue part is just hitting me like a ton of bricks for the fact we DID NOT FIGHT ever and she ALWAYS reassured me she loved me very much. Theirs a learning process to this dbing to train the way you approach this cause it's making you fight all those emotions that want you to act on.
