at one point my h and I did reconcile. It took months (over a year) before I could have a conversation not involving the R, or asking "WHY??" etc. Which usually led to fights.
Then another year of GAL & detachment and though we reconciled, we did not piece well. But the recon alone took 2 years.
Point is, your timeline is a...crazy rushed. Seriously.
Sometimes we push for certainty when there is NO certainty yet,
and we force an answer we don't really want, just to "know" the answer.
Back off, give her space, be upbeat but not over the top.
Act as if you are resigned to her tragic decision (tragic for her, too, not just you).
You do Not want pity, you do not want to guilt her (which always fails anyhow)
What are you doing to Get A Life?
It's the only way to detach and
detachment is not just for keeping our sanity. It's also what makes us happier and in time, a lot more attractive as potential partners.
You are very early in this process. And this Is a marathon, not a sprint.
Make sense?
I know I'm still in panic and disbelief mode I think cause of how far out of the blue this was to me...I guess it just seems to me that's she's rushing it to end by so quickly packing up and moving all her stuff. So that makes me feel at times that I have to do something right now!!! Which I DO know it's NOT what need to do. I didn't contact her for 5 days and then she contacted me about bills and some bs small talk just to make it civil. So I'm back to NC now.
Things I've been doing to GAL... well I've been having friends over during the weekends and going to church, mountain biking, and reading reading and more reading about how to get my wife back but that's not really GAL!
So do you think I should delete her from my Facebook? And just delete Facebook completely right now cause it's hard to not look at her page and wonder what she's doing and that's not healthy for me right now
