the month before h left (unbeknownst to me) our 11 y/o family dog got sick. I was out of town and h told me he crated her while he was at work. No, he did not take her in
and btw, h was a veterinarian before he was a physician - and I can barely write this...
a month later after h had left, and I filed for divorce, the dog just looked horrible. I could not drive due to the seizures.
my uber driver saw the dog and carried her into the car, and drove me and "MY" dog to the vets. They missed whatever the problem was even though they did tests.
D28 took the dog (sort of d28's dog anyhow) and I took the "puppy" east with me.
A month later d28 asked h and me what to do as family dog seemed very sick, but it might have been a treatable disease. In fact it appeared to be treatable.
H's response was that he was "available for medical advice..." (read "not money")
I privately texted h what he thought or would suggest, and he said one word in his text to me...
"euthanasia".
a few weeks and $$ later, (money from me and my sisters, and d28, btw)
the family dog was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
S30, and d19 and I (& my sisters and some good family friends) all supported d28 as she made the only choice she could make. H was not involved until after the fact and said something like he "loved that dog" etc.
Like he'd been a part of it. God, I cannot believe this is the man I married and loved for decades.
Brubeck,
I'm sorry. Take care of your kids & good luck with the job search. I've got a law degree and practiced law until the last child was born. Not getting interviews at all, so far.
H has a pristine resume but has decided to "retire" now that the court ordered him to pay support.
of course it's unfair. Grand scheme of things, I know I'm better off than most people on the planet and I mean that. I get it.
Still, right now you hurt. I get that too. But I have a friend who lost her son last fall, out of nowhere.
So I try hard to focus on gratitude b/c in the end, what are our choices?
Misery and limbo, or embracing what life has thrust upon us and keeping at it?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
