at one point my h and I did reconcile. It took months (over a year) before I could have a conversation not involving the R, or asking "WHY??" etc. Which usually led to fights.
Then another year of GAL & detachment and though we reconciled, we did not piece well. But the recon alone took 2 years.
Point is, your timeline is a...crazy rushed. Seriously.
Sometimes we push for certainty when there is NO certainty yet,
and we force an answer we don't really want, just to "know" the answer.
Back off, give her space, be upbeat but not over the top.
Act as if you are resigned to her tragic decision (tragic for her, too, not just you).
You do Not want pity, you do not want to guilt her (which always fails anyhow)
What are you doing to Get A Life?
It's the only way to detach and
detachment is not just for keeping our sanity. It's also what makes us happier and in time, a lot more attractive as potential partners.
You are very early in this process. And this Is a marathon, not a sprint.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
