I have come to the conclusion that our marriage can't be saved.
Slow down. Its much too early to make that decision. You are of course free to make that decision if cheating is an absolute deal breaker for you. But most M's can come back from this IF both parties are willing to do the hard, hard work.
My advice to you would be to take it slow and not make any decisions right now. Detach and go dark and spend some serious time working on you. You appear to be ready to do that so knock it out of the park and let things chill for a while. D doesn't make the pain go away.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
