I guess I shouldn't say rules that was probably a poor choice of words to use here. I told her that I won't put effort into seeing if this will work. If there is another person also in the relationship. And I won't I'm to spent on this to give her the satisfaction of getting away to something new and having me as a back up plan.
On when I cheated ny sexting someone else. Well I don't know if we ever dealt with it. When she found out she went and spent the night at her dads. The next day she told me no contact with other person ever again. I knew I messed up and was willing to try and be a better husband I quit my job(was a coworker that I was texting). And let her know that she could look thru my phone at any point. And she and I talked and I admitted everything that I had said and we talked thru it.
