180man Thread 4

[180Man]

Just a little update from my corner of the world. Turned my facebook back on again this past week. I didn't miss it at all, but I felt like it was time and I figured JAG would, like most women my age, try looking me up to see how much of a serial killer I am. Hope I didn't disappoint.

I asked JAG to coffee again at the beginning of last week, we had a really nice time just sitting and talking. I tried hard to avoid interrupting her and be a good listener -- I feel I have a tendency to ask people questions in the middle of their stories and sometimes it's probably irritating.

Shortly thereafter, I allowed my friends to peer pressure me into asking her to go bowling with me. I was going to do this anyways, but they pushed me to do it shortly after our coffee thing. I did not take time to actually think ahead about the words that should come out of my mouth. It was a little clumsy and awkward and I don't think she was really prepared or expecting me to just come out and ask her on a date. Normally I would ask a girl to dinner, but I felt like bowling was a good half-step between coffee and dinner and gave me deniability were not received well -- "hey, it's not a date, it's just bowling!" -- but she's a smart cookie, she knows what's going on.

So, we're supposed to go next week. I admit, I am really excited -- probably too excited -- but I am trying hard to take it slow and I'm not interested in bugging her. She friended me on fb yesterday and we exchanged phone numbers and texted for a few minutes. I think yesterday was the happiest I've been in six or eight months. Not to imply I haven't been happy lately -- I have actually been really good this past month or so and it has only been getting better. I feel like I'm in a good place, emotionally, spiritually, physically -- I've leaned out a ton and bulked up a little since I started going to the gym months ago. I'm still going to my men's church group and I'm actually going to start surfing with some of those guys. Work is good and I'm appreciated. We had a fund raiser yesterday for our command and I got to pie my boss in the face. JAG was in the front row and seemed to be enjoying the situation and took pictures. We really did a number on him, he told me later he had pie in his ears still. Hahah!

My old drummer was in town yesterday and today, we went out and hung out and also got to play some music together. I told him what has been going on in my life and he confided in me that he is having terrible issues in his relationship too and he doesn't know what to do about it. His wife has tried to kill herself three times in the last year and a half, she abuses alcohol, she picks fights with him all the time, and she has a real jealously problem -- she was in the hospital for three days last week on account of this. I feel really bad for him and I hope she gets some help. But I told him she needs to find her own happiness before she can be happy with anyone else, just like my wife. I hope they figure it out.

As for my W, not much is new. I need to meet with my lawyer this week and do some paperwork. I told my wife I'd like to come to an agreeable settlement, so we'll see what happens. I just want it to be a thing of the past at this point.

Hope everyone is doing well!