(Soon, I am going to set up an OLD account somewhere as well. So weird to date this way, because they really were just starting, back when I was single)
I have been lurking on a made up account and here are some of the things that bother me from male posters....
1. When they complain about women not matching their photos, or make comments about weight. This is a total turn off and makes me think they are very shallow. I do understand its important not to misrepresent oneself. But at the same time, a guy that complains about it on his profile is a red flag for me. (I would have been annoyed with that request to send more pics as well) Guys (and woman) that complain on their profiles in general are red flags for me. Like if they, "please know the difference between their and there". Ugh. It does not make me think they are smart or funny... Just arrogant. (I recognize I am complaining right now )
2. When they do not have children, yet post pics of themselves with children. Personally, I shudder at the thought of seeing my child's pic on someone's match profile. I am wondering if they actually got permission? It also misrepresents, as I would like to meet a guy that has small children. Not a guy that poses with other peoples kids so that potential dates think he is sensitive, or looking to settle down.
3. When guys post pics with their arms around other women. Come on. Cant they just use another photo? Unless they label it as "me and sister"
4. I like the posts where guys show they are funny with a joke or sarcasm as opposed to just writing down "I am hilarious lol" which seems to be really common. One guy wrote "I look better in person then in pics...at least that's what my mom tells me" and I thought that was really cute.
Any suggestions out there for us females?
P.S. I think a few back and forth exchanges first makes sense if you want to feel safe. But it is easy to develop a sense of intimacy or safety with someone via writing, that does not actually exist.
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