Betrayed Spouse

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks Sandi. I don't feel inferior at all to him. Better looking, make way more money, honest, dependable, caring etc. What he has on me is fun and excitement. He's a bartender so he knows way more people than me. They like trips and fine dining every week.

You are my son's age. As a mother, when I read ^^this, I want to pat your head and tell you to just STOP.

Being novel IS exciting...and then it's not novel anymore.


Unless you actually oppose traveling, (in which case she can travel with a female friend like many people do when their spouses are busy working) you can start taking trips. So they like "fine dining?" Oh, so you like "bad greasy" food?

I mean, who doesn't like "fine dining"?? (Or walks on the beach...) Don't believe the cliches that are being spouted out.


I'm sorry your heart is broken and I am sorry your w is a foolish woman who worked so hard in her career for so long, married to a man in the same boat, that when she finally looks around for some passion in her m, she assumes it cannot come from her h b/c you've both been in worker mode and mistakenly neglected the passion every m needs to some extent, some more than others.


I always been simple but I do need to get out more, one of her complaints.

Your right about the detaching thing. Its my time now, cant do it anymore. Not saying I will divorce, but just cant focus on the M for awhile.


indeed you cannot. It's not helping the situation or you.

This has prob taken 10 years off my life.


you can learn to have an inner peace and more balance in your life than you might have otherwise. In time you may well be ahead and guess what? YOU are in charge of this.


You guys provide great advice hear, I'm just hard headed. When I want something right or wrong, I obsess over it.

been there, done that, like 95% of us.

Don't pooh pooh meditation. See a therapist if you are not already.

DO GAL

We hammer GAL for a reason, which is that it works. Besides, I do not know another way to detach.

((( )))