Friends who tell you why WAS will/won't return are totally speculating but usually I think they want us to protect ourselves by keeping our hopes down. I get that.
I think we are supposed to completely work on having no expectations and to protect ourselves financially, & to remember that anytime in this process and even after a divorce, couples can reconcile.
On occasion, the freedom so desperately sought by and demanded by the WAS is only achieved by a divorce.
Maybe only then, can they finally look around at the spouse they left behind, who is now living their own life. (& that part is 100% in the LBSers control).
Only then, perhaps - is the light shined on the history and commonality in their r. Even then, the WAS would need to face the wreckage they created, then do a lot of work to rebuild.
No LBS can wait for ^^that, or expect it, but maybe a part of your heart can hold a tiny piece of hope. Hope is allowed.
Hope has to be disconnected somehow, from expectations & cannot hinder GAL and feeling free.
Because like it or not, you are or will be free. And more WASs do not return than do.
Some argue that hope has to be eliminated or the LBSer simply won't move on.
I think if you are careful, you can have hope safely coupled with embracing what life is offering/forcing upon you.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
