the L your h hired & who emailed you for info, she MIGHT be churning fees to "confirm/verify" the identity of your L.
Or there's a legit reason to confirm, like she thinks your h is flaky, disorganized, etc.
Or she has to hear it from you, with local customs in place, etc.
I doubt that in this particular sitch, your h is playing a game on purpose. Just my .02
as for hiring a DB coach, I always support that. But don't confuse a DB coach with a L and don't confuse a L with a therapist (& believe me, I've done both).
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