Park, If I offended you with my comments yesterday, I apologize. No, I am not in a triangle marriage. My husband and I are separated, but neither of us is in an affair. We have no children together. I can only speak from my own experience, and clearly it is much different than yours. I just know that when I tried to be nice, and made sure he knew I would take him back and forgive him, he moved farther away. I do not feel that increased his respect for me, nor made me very attractive to him. Desperation is rarely attractive. It was only when I stopped doing everything that was not working, went completely dark, and began to heal without making my life all about him, that we began to move slowly back towards each other. We are far from there still, and I don't know if we will ever reconcile, but I'm pretty sure if I hadn't stopped being so available, we'd already be D. I wish you all the very best. I truly do.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
