Limerence and My Situation

[Parkema]

LiM,

"Conversation IS what builds a R but the reason it worked when you first met was because she was not in a R with someone else"

I'm sorry to tell you but she was! Extremely presumptuous of you, is this the kind of "advice" I can expect...

As for the love bank of course I am depositing, women are entirely emotional us blokes more physical/logical and being someone who can be her safe place who listens and validates can only deposit love or good feeling. I would agree if I ranted and begged and pleaded for her. NO CHANCE.

"You are making excuses for her when you say she can't help herself. Of course she can. She is CHOOSING to be in a R outside of your M." I agree she chose to cross the line and that is partly my fault BUT once the changes happen in her (limerence) then she is not seeing straight and is something VERY difficult to break free from.

Only time is known to end it BUT again I'm under no illusions that it will work in my favour, she might put up with his faults and him hers but I am placing myself in the best position to show her that the family and I are her best option.

I'm already out of the relationship and in my own place with the boundaries that come with it BUT this is my method and is something I thought considering the content in DR people could relate to. I continue to learn - thank you.

Thanks

Mark