My strategy is based on sound advice but am not saying it is right. You say I have no boundaries and am involved with an open marriage arn't we all... If your S is in an A and you are still married then that's open (someone with your S now? You are open) especially if you have children.
What example am I showing my kids? One that is supportive caring and strong in the face of immense pain and suffering and again this is NOT shown when we are with her BUT when we are together as a family her excluded (boundary). I NEVER go to her about anything AT ALL she will approach me I cant stop that due to my children's needs sorry.
What would you have me do? Stop her from seeing her kids? D and end the relationship? These boards are fundamentally about trying to win back your WS isn't it? I'm sorry you feel I'm not listening I am hence all the posts BUT I base my method on solid advice from "experts" and medical evidence.
Its not going to be an easy journey and I prefer to have people by my side along the way. I will make mistakes and I will learn from them but the original post was about limerence and how I intend to handle it but has evolved into something completely different.
Thanks
Mark
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
