Wow, Mark, If you honestly think that your W is going to come back when her "mind drug" comes to an end, and you will be waiting for her, then I truly think this may be on the wrong forum/website for you. You CAN detach, while keeping your kids in as well a position as they could possibly be, but tell me this..... what kind of example are you setting for them, in the face of your spouse using both you AND om, at the same time, and they see it all- are you showing them a husband who is willing to live in an open marriage, while hoping she decides to wake up and come running back to what she already left? Or can you show them a man who will NOT be a part of an open marriage, who allows his wife to walk all over him, and ultimately look like a fool? PLEASE, if you are truly here for advice, listen to the vets who keep saying, MAN UP, and give her some boundaries. And NO, I don't think you have given her any, or at least any that make her uncomfortable. Again, just my opinion. Seems like you came here with your mind already made up as to how to fix this thing. If your plan works, then perhaps we all need to begin shifting our thinking. But so far, laying down and remaining available has worked for NO ONE on this board.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
