No offence but when would she ever feel the loss?

I could go to D and demand her limited visitation to our children and might win that argument, how would my children feel?

I totally agree she is cake eating and enjoying it but little more I can do except NC and no pursuing with boundaries. I feel it will evolve over time to less and less contact as the A deepens so that only works in my favour, the void will be felt when she chooses not to or should I say the AP/LO chooses for her not to "reach out "to me when I have our children either way this doesn't bode well for their R and resentment will build between them.
Being that safe place only helps for when it comes to choosing HER next move...

Please appreciate I am not at her beckon call I have my own life my own friends and am enjoying this BUT my R with her and our boys is too important not to try everything I can to bring her back. I don't think I am explaining myself well enough regarding my involvement which is nominal any contact is ALWAYS initiated by her. and only in person when she's visiting our children at my "home".

"You can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality." No she is ignoring reality due to limerence she's not herself once reality sets back in and they see each other without their rose coloured glasses on cracks will appear and I will not burn that last remaining bridge from fantasy island back to the family.

Thanks again

Mark

DR'ing started March 2017

Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".