Just to clarify she brings up the conversation I tend to engage and listen then validate.
When the OP/LO called she didn't answer as this is one of my boundaries how do you think that went with them both her NOT answering? He must have known where she was..?
I agree with the "cake eating" BUT she's there for the boys I detach unless she wants to talk I can't very well run away from her but I can use it to my advantage. This might be prolonging the limerence in her but my boys are my primary concern and I have to manage this the best I can, sometimes I leave the house entirely giving that boundary again.
Do we not agree that engaging in conversation is what builds a relationship? Where would we have been at the beginning of our R with our S if we didn't talk about mutual topics! This is allowing me to show her I'm invested in what she thinks it doesn't mean I agree in what she's doing...
I fully understand that I am 50% to blame for our issues and know where I fell down and is something I'm working on but is this better for a new R or to better the existing one? I feel she is worth all my efforts to bring the family back together and save her from this condition.
Thank you for your insight.
Mark
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
