I see her probably once every two weeks. Usually dinner at her parents or out with common friends. We still talk everyday though. Her parents live 10 minutes from my house and love me to death. Her dad is very upset with her and her mom doesn't agree but doesn't bring it up much.
I'm starting to now. Been pretty consistent lately, getting work done (My job is 100% brain, no physical actions so you could imagine how hard it is to concentrate), killing the gym, going to a counselor, hanging with old friends. I did the wrong thing for so long, but I'm seeing small changes. The hardest thing is being positive no matter what, but I believe that's your best friend.
You look to have done a way better job than me so keep it all up. Don't follow the rules too rigidly though, we all have unique situations. Try to custom fit them to your situation. For example, she left me because I was too distant. So when I see her I try to explain what's been going on in my life and tell her stories. I used to just say my "my day was fine" and that was it. So talking to much may go against some of the rules.
BTW, I'm no expert on what works but an expert on what doesn't haha
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
