You hit the dang nail on the head. It took me awhile to figure this out but I did. So I told her she needs to show me something before we can go. Not necessarily move back in but something along the lines of kicking this guy out of her apartment. Something to show me that this isn't some sort of "feel good" for her conscience.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
