Sorry your going through this man. Right here with you minus the kids. I have not reacted well but I can tell what didn't work, living proof:
1) My begging and constant calling pushed her way far back. 2) If you remember her PWs to certain things, have her change them of do your best not to look. I seen some ungodly things I wish I haven't. 3) Me worrying about their every step, something you cannot control no matter what their doing. 4) Sitting alone saying woe is me. If felt good for people to feel sorry for me for awhile but it still didn't change a thing. 5) Being inconsistent with actions, you will slip up but just keep going. Once I started GALing, she took a pretty big notice but it can backfire if you throw it in her face.
Seems like you are doing this well, keep it up. The very bad days become bad days then sometimes good and so on. Its been 9 months now for me. Small breakthroughs came for me when I became sincere and honest with her and myself. If they are some changes she wanted you to make then do them but only if you can live with them and you agree that it will improve your relationship and general well being.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
