25yearsmlc 10 Yrs Later I File D part 3

[25yearsmlc]

Don,

point taken about why profile? I hid my profile after 4 days b/c it's like a part time job just trying to weed out AND be kind to those who send messages.

Unless the messages are weirdly familiar or bossy or curt (15%?) I answered them. Horrific grammar also rules out some (another 15-20%) so a 1/3 are weeded out just by how they write.

I can't say ^^that's a "great system", but when the numbers are high, you have to come up with something. I ignored most winks and flirts unless I saw a photo of someone hot. And even then, not many.

Most messaging men seem to want to meet soon, whereas I want 2-4 conversations first. THEN I'd want to see if we can have coffee to check chemistry and see where it goes. That was my "plan". Not a dinner first and a public place is needed. Also I KNOW that if I have not slept with a man other than my h, for 36-7 years, I can't just go do it. Mind you, i have a high libido. But it will be SO different (painful?? God I hope not) that I'll have to freak out and I just hope I can hide it.

When I posted there was a deluge of messages repeated, from guys who want to move too fast.

Don, I got scared off. It was not a game. I have the phone number of 3 guys I may call. One in particular seems seriously ready to be IN a relationship and he has a cabin in the mountains ---and I'm already thinking "NO, I want to live overseas, and maybe have a cabin for LATER..."

So in a way I'm talking myself out of things. Like for all I know, he's willing to move or travel, but it's like I'm finding reasons he could not be a mate.

I'll have to think about all that. In real life, yes it's easier b/c I feel more facile with conversations in person. Wit and concern are easier to convey in person.

But I will ponder all this and welcome the OLD stories and advice, which have already helped me. So I think i''l call

Interestingly, I feel like there's a temporary escape when i imagine dating. Like my ego isn't so bruised. Like I CAN recouple someday.
But I'm not sure that^^ is a good reason to date...and I'm not sure it's a bad one.

Thanks