We definatly have to meet up G. It would really be easy.
I love hypnotherapy. And I love my hypnotherapist. She has been through exactly what I have been through, so she can relate and seems to understand the type of help I need without me telling her. She's very intuitive and just seems really passionate about her field. I just talk to her about my life and she gets it. It was such a bizarre coincidence but our experiences have been insanely similar. It's more like a guided meditation and you're in control and aware the whole time...like if you want to get up and walk out of the room, you totally could. She said it normally takes about 4 sessions. It's not a forever thing. But I trust her and feel more comfortable with her then I did with counselors. The counselors were always so aware of that 45 min being up (And i totally get it) but this is not the case with my hypnotherapist.
She said something about like attracting like regarding relationships and meeting new people. Which is why we want to address our own inner demons I guess.
I have been in a relationship with someone that just wanted to be left alone for a really long time. I would fight and argue with him over not spending time with me...talk about pathetic. For me, it is hard for me to think that someone actually wants to spend time with me and connect on an emotional level so I am very detached with people. I have given all men the label of wanting their freedom and space over a relationship at an extreme level. I had the opposite problem that you did, in that I was and probably still am unable to truly invest in someone. A friend whose ex wife was also an addict told me that this is very common. I was able to be a light hearted friend and advice giver to that guy I dated a while ago, but I never truly could connect the way he seemed to. Although I probably sensed he was not a good match as well.
Really, I have to just sign the divorce papers and venture out. Reinstate my life.
