Ok I have been reading everything on these boards for about the last six weeks. Now I have finally felt I needed my own problem discussed. So here goes
I am 31 year old h W is 33 years old Been m for 8 years
So about six weeks ago wife said she wanted to be done. We have two kids SD is 11 our d together is 6. So on 4-28-17 wife left to live in an apartment she had rented the day before. Said she had felt negative about me for quite sometime and didn't want to be married any more. Of course I was devastated and lost. I believe I handled it fairly well. I didn't beg and plead for her to stay. Just told her that I loved her and wanted her to be happy even if it wasn't with me.
So she started to move her stuff from the home that weekend we talked many times in person and over text and phone calls. Once again I didn't beg or plead or ask her to stay. I truly love her and just want her to be happy. We sat down and talked about visitation and what not for my daughter. We agreed that switch every week on Sunday mornings. So all is good on the kid front.
Since I could not afford to keep the home we were in I have since moved out and am living with my parents. As of today 06-01-17 everything is out of the family home and I am going to call the bank and let them know. So all is good on the house front.
Here is the part that I am lost and confused on. During this whole ordeal we have kept really good communication and have not argued or fought once. I know reading these boards this is prob not the best thing right now. And I should really just let her go right now. And focus on myself and daughter but it is really hard. We haven't talked like this in years and it feels like back when we first got married because we are talking about problems and laughing and joking. And being the typical male that I am we have had sex multiple times since this all went down. We have had one "date" at her apartment where we watched a movie she cooked me dinner and I stayed the night. And we have had one "date" where we went to a town about a 100 miles away had dinner and gambled I once again stayed the night and we had sex. We have talked about what has caused this and we both are working on being better people and having a better marriage. And once again I know that we probably shouldn't but we text each other about 100 times a day. We still exchange I love you's. something which I should add hasn't been the case for the last 2 months of our marriage.
So my question is what the heck is going on why now are we talking why now are we working on us. Is she just stringing me along until the dust settles or is this a good sign what is happening. And any advice would be amazing
