I literally just read an article about psychological projection in relationships, I think you're taking way too much on yourself. As 25 said it's definitely good to do some introspection and decide what you want to address for your own benefit, but as Cadet says, she is responsible for her own happiness, not you. She was unhappy with herself, and she is projecting that onto you. Don't buy into that.

If she's moving more stuff out and into a storage unit, how about you box her stuff up for her when she's not there and prepare it for her so that when she comes to get more, it's all ready to go in boxes right by the door?

She wants space, you're helping her get exactly what she wants.

Do you think that would throw her for a loop?

What do you think she would conclude about that? Do you think she would walking away thinking "I guess I'm making the right decision because he wants me gone? Why does he want me gone?" or "Uh oh, maybe I'm making a mistake here..."

Either way, it's channeling her thoughts back to her and away from focusing on being mad at you.

Just something to think about.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015