Hey ginger, you are doing a lot of beating yourself up..Saying that you stink at this. That you are damaged. Declaring yourself as rejected.
It was weird for him to get relationshippy quick. Especially with not 1 but 2 single moms. I can totally see how many women, let alone a single mom would be vulnerable to that. It is normal to want someone to love us and give us attention. It feels good to feel loved and to be given attention. And its easy to associate that attention and attach to the person giving it.
But its a classic trait of abusers and cult leaders and other types of scary predators of single moms with young kids to give that same type of attention early on. Its not a classic trait of a normal healthy guy. (Im not saying he is one of those extremes...but truth is, you only know the good parts that he showed you so far)
This might truly just be his issue. And maybe its good that you were not involved with him long enough to uncover the actual issue. No one will know for sure, but maybe he realized early on that you are going to be a harder target because of your maturity and emotional intelligence? (Just a quick thought. I know we cant assume) the fact that he was so hot and then so cold and able to discard so easily is a warning sign too.
Other posters brought this up, but early on it can be hard to accept that IT ISNT YOU!!! Especially when the person comes on strong and makes all sort of promises and declarements. He seems like this great guy, because he was great in the beginning. But being that great that quick is not the norm. It is smoke and mirrors (whether conscious or not)
So I am going to reiterate...IT ISN'T YOU. You are questioning your rationality and desirability but don't. I get this intuition that there are tons of shy, intimidated men that would love to date and get to know you better. You really have everything going for you.... Looks, financial independence, a good career, and both book and street smarts.
