Right there with you. Having this along with kids must be making this process even more difficult for you plus the amount of time you have been together.
After reading the book, this walk away wife deal seems to be one of the toughest obstacles to overcome. Consistency has been my biggest problem. I make some good progress then my wife ignores me or I find out her and OM are going on trips, cruises, etc. then I revert back to the sad person. Time is a friend but could also be an enemy. Doing the wrong things over and over may just seal the deal. Also one of reasons for leaving was me being distant, so that makes it tough as well.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
