Jellyb has some great advice regarding dating. She recently posted "rule of thumb is to let someone show you who they are before you invest"
I think what you are saying makes sense... that maybe you are getting into relationship mode a bit early in the process when things should really be about dating and just enjoying the person. That early relationship mode could be scary for the person you're dating. Because while what you are doing might be sound advise and good marriage and relationship tools, people might not want to feel married so eary in the game? Maybe they want to just enjoy the beginning phase of a relationship a bit longer. That phase for many guys might be more of the chase, the uncertainty, the wining and dining?
And I'm not trying to give 1950s advise where I'm saying to play games and act hard to get. But to genuinely pull back and get to know them first. They need to earn you're trust and respect and willingness to invest and utilize those relationship skills we learn here. But that takes time. We don't want to push a square into a round hole. We need to take the time to make sure that shape is round.
Would love to hear more advise about dating though. As soon as I sign my papers I think I'm trying an online dating site.
