WAS or what 9

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Thanks btrfly. Appreciate the support and hugs.

Mood update: I am not high but I have bounced back. I have always been clear that this isn't how I want to live indefinitely. I admire those who have absolute resolution that they will stick it out regardless for however long it takes. That attitude will surely help them, but I believe we should not want to save our M at any cost. Standing any which way can be more damaging to the lbs than losing their spouse. I guess these low moments allow me to assess that and determine what is best for me.

So I will follow my chosen path for another while. I said last year that I would read SSM by Michelle. Yesterday I ordered it and another similar one specifically for men in my situation. I never read this because I believed my W wanted out and not just to stop any connection with me, so I wasn't sure if it fitted our situation. But it is something else to tick off my tried list.

I have read the 4 stages outlined on this forum. I have probably done some of what is outlined, so I imagine I will shorten some of the time lines especially on working on me. That being said it will do no harm to revisit that. Until I read the book I don't know, but I envisage giving myself a few months to follow the principles and should be well into the getting her on board phase when I hit my Third anniversary of when I decided to save my.M. let's see how I feel then.

Thanks for following

Best wishes