In my mind I have felt like I've been treated like a scapegoat but after her saying all the things she felt I was not doing she led me to believe I had wronged her for so long. Should I of been more compassionate? Absolutely, should I of out her feelings I front of mine of course. So thank you for helping me feel better about myself and not feeling like I am the worse husband in the world. Unfortunately it still doesn't bring back my wife, which is still my main priority
I understand that -- if you wanted to come up with a laundry list of things that *she* has done wrong in your marriage I'll bet you could do that pretty easily too right? That's life, that's how relationships work.
What I can tell you with 100% absolute certainty is that pursuing your wife, apologizing to her, or trying to demonstrate changes now for her benefit will not bring her back.
I guarantee you that 100%. You can read thousands of stories on this site and see that.
Your brain will tell you that is what you should do, but your brain is wrong.
If you want her back, give her space, give her *more* space than she is asking for.
You might think that is the worst thing to do, and I'm telling you it's the least worst thing to do.
There is no good answer here, it's not within your control -- you can't will her to feel what you want her to feel no matter how you try.
Think back to high school -- if you chased a girl around offering gifts and compliments did that ever work? What if you were mysterious, confident and aloof? Which one is attractive?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
