I read something today TO and thought of you. It was about how, in uncertain situations we feel desperate for absolutes and certainty. It is a human response to fear.

You are doing this I think and rather than seeking someone from him, can you just notice the pattern and remain non- reactive?

Him looking at banks doesn't mean you need to do anything. If he wants to move out, sit back and let him get on with it. He may or he may not...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus