One month and it's love while you love your wife also? because you aren't finding negatives in ONE MONTH?
And not sabotage what? And this is going from marriage right into a relationship. No a relationship to a relationship.
You can't be your W's savior while loving another woman.
You are one who really really needs space from ALL of it for a while. I think you need to fully get out of the mess you are in before you insert yourself in someone else's life. You had mentioned she expressed not wanting to be caught up in all of this. You aren't even divorced yet and still wanting to be your W's savior.
But I know, when things feel so good, as they do with this woman you love after one month...... you aren't going to hear that.
Just come back and read this post once in a while.
