I am 9 years out. And I still confuse something big time and get called out on it often:
Love vs. infatuation. You are infatuated with that girl you dated. You are infatuated with the way she makes you feel and the pain she puts a Band-Aid on. By admitting your love for your W, you ARE violating this new girls trust if you are still involved with her and she doesn't know you are still in love with your wife.
Let's take her out of the equation.
And perhaps your W. Take some time to fall in love with you.
