You guys aren't going to beleive this 5

[25yearsmlc]

Thornton,

Sending you positives. Glad you decided to sit with your emotions and not hide from them.

There do come times when we have to begin our healing process (and we all backslide there too). And we need to remind ourselves that it's Our job to heal, not someone else or someone new.

God, how tempting it would be to just get into a new R and act as if the past X years were way in the past and not have to look at that or our roles in it

or how we repeat patterns,

but that's not an authentic healthy r, is it? And inauthentic r's are not going to be part of our futures, are they?

And we will not put all our eggs in another person's basket. We won't put our happiness onto their shoulders

and we will be rocks for our children...

all of this^^^ takes time AND GAL and truly, Thornton I think a lot of the issues you and IC have identified

with the introversion and not liking to socialize much and feeling stuck and also believing you cannot be whole or happy without an unstable r in your life

are all related, aren't they?

Hence the many suggestions by others to get out and socialize. I was amazed your meet up group was at a bar.

I'm going to one this Sunday and it's a discussion group that meets every Sunday to talk about current events or things like "Is War Inevitable?"

There are films groups if you feel too pressed in discussion groups.

Bowling leagues, team sports for people over 40, (or 50), and simply a lot of things to join and do if you look.

Look online in your area, b/c I think you'll find something you are curious about or always wanted to do or wondered if you could, or want to overcome

*I had to take a math class to qualify for teaching and believe me, that was a challenge for my brain but it delighted me to pass it in a way that almost makes me laugh b/c it was high school math but in MY real life, I never used algebra!! I cannot claim it was fun to study math, okay?

But it felt solidifying and encouraging to my self esteem.

I say all this^^^ and so do others, b/c I firmly believe that GAL will lessen your pain.


Inertia is a powerful force, sometimes almost a friend. But it always keeps you stuck.