We do have about a 10 year age gap. She is 30, I am turning 41. She never was immature but I have felt her age is acting up now.
She knows what I know and she has been very upfront about it as well after I called her out on it. I took pictures just in case this isn't salvageable and the divorce can be filed for infidelity but I want to see if we can overcome this. It truly seems she was feeling isolated. And from what I have seen OM gave her attention more than anything. They did have sex about two times. The hurtful part is more that she lied when I asked her twice about it. And that I was trying to give her attention too...she just saw it as not being genuine because where was this H all these years? Well he had been there but inconsistently.
She said the OM made her realize things we are compatible with and by looking at me as a friend she got more compassion for me. Maybe she cannot be trusted but I have to figure that out. She told me this morning that she liked being sexual with me but that she doesn't know if she did it because she was afraid or because she wanted to. I told her we need to take this a day at a time. I told her that while there are a lot of complications we also have a history. The things we did yesterday where things she felt were missing all these years. But we also addressed several challenges that we needed to work on.
Some of what she describes conflicts with what happened. Like she felt these past few weeks I wouldn't even care if she slept with someone else because I didn't seem to show any signs. Which isn't true...except that for the past three weeks I stopped saying ILY and I stopped sending a ton of messages.
