It is good you have friends close enough to want to share their private details with you. That indicates you are seen as a good friend.

You stating your view of this potential R demonstrates that you are a true friend, not just superficial that will go along with anything. That trait is rarer and rarer these days. Don't change.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together