I've had an OK weekend, fairly detached from my W.
I did bring up the cell phone plan again this afternoon and she admitted she hasn't done anything about getting her own plan. I will follow up again in a few days but this is excruciating b/c I know she's not going to do anything. I did tell her just to have the OM pay for it and then I walked away.
I feel as if I'm stuck deep in rule #24 right now.
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24. Be patient......very, very patient. Give your spouse space and time. When you pull back, it will draw them towards you. It feels opposite of what you want to do, but it works!
I am pulling way back and trying to be patient. This is so hard to do with 3 kids at home right now and living in the same house and forced to be in MBR with W.
The question that keeps coming back to me is how will I know when I'm just done?
Me46 W46 M25yrs T29yrs 4 children ILYBNILWY 1/30/17 PA confronted 3/6/17 Separated same house
you know the "rules" are not rules. They are guidelines Sandi assembled based on the DB principles.
They are not ALL applicable, and only some apply to some of the situations here. These are and certainly not to be rigidly applied. Do what works, and what saves your self respect, and sanity. If you monitor for results and see none, then change the approach. Standing does not mean "waiting" or standing still.
Detach, keep your temper and be the best dad you can be. Your kids need you more now than ever.
Hang in there
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