What a weird day... so here is another update.... I went to go see a movie and when I came back W greeted me in tears and said how she doesn't feel anything. Nothing sounds like fun to her
What are the ages of you and W? No offense, but she sounds very young and/or immature. She clearly has you wrapped around her little finger, which seems to be the case with the majority of newly LBH'S.
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She seemed in major despair so we hugged and we cuddled a bit. She then initiated more physical contact saying that she doesn't want to give me false hope and I said I don't have false hope I know it won't be fixed overnight and she said: maybe ever
For whatever reason you were led to think she had a change of heart.........she has not. It always makes me nervous when I hear about a W cheating and then seducing her H to have sex with her. I have a couple of immediate thoughts as to why she would........and neither are good. It would be easy if things could be fixed that easily, but it's not that simple anymore.
All cheaters have something in common. They are deceitful. From this point going forward, you need to protect yourself, before anything else. You will not be able to trust her word or actions alone.
Do you know if she has had sex with the OM?
Have you confronted her about the affair? If not, wait until we can discuss it more, before jumping into confrontation.
Never tell her how much you know, or the source.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
