WAS or what 9

[WillDo]

I have been thinking/wanting to reply on your thread based on your question.

I have had a down 2 months ago and haven't been able to recover from it. It was mainly fuelled from a picture which I accidentally saw. W had sent a picture with her and OM to MIL. It was OM's birthday. Just a picture in a coffee shop. I didn't confront her about it. She doesn't know I have seen it. Nevertheless, it was bugging me. Was feeling just like how you are feeling for almost 2 months. So once we had an argument back in February, she moved to another room. Now insist that I should move to our other house which just got out of rent. I feel horrible. I am resisting to move and I am telling her that. Well she is saying it would be her to move with the Ds. I am chasing for repairs of the flat as it needs work. You know what that feels like digging your own grave. We all will be out abroad for 6 weeks. She will be at a course for 5 weeks. I will be working from abroad. And the Ds will be either at camp or with me. Once we get back, she wants me out.

What I am trying to say is that with long limbo time like ours, it feels that the WW is looking for the window to run away. Don't give her that chance.

The WAS can't find the connection. Happy to continue as a non-sex marriage. Enjoy the changes they have seen of the DBer but as it doesn't click nothing happens.

Possibly the DBer is busy with GAL activities, keeping his hopes low and getting prepared for the unwanted or wanted. Regarding the unwanted outcome, DBer has worked on him/herself so feelings of desperation are low. I have seen people even using dating sites. If the wanted outcome is there, then the marriage is resorted.